Why More Couples are Sleeping in Separate Bedrooms (By Choice!)

by Sofzsleep

In romance fantasies, there’s nothing sweeter than falling asleep in your partner’s warm, loving embrace.

However, for many couples, reality often paints a different picture. He snores, she steals the blankets, and both of you can never seem to agree on an ideal sleeping time. And all this, can affect the quality of your sleep – which also impacts your energy level, productivity and mood the next day.

Traditionally, this issue would be solved with either one partner “giving in” and suffering sleepless nights, or by both individuals establishing a set of rules that allows them to get a “decent, but not ideal” night’s rest. There are though, an increasing number of couples that are choosing a third option – sleeping in separate bedrooms.

And as you’ll soon discover, this can be positive for your relationship!

Common reasons why couples sleep apart

There are many reasons why couples may choose to sleep on separate beds, and these are some of the most common ones:

  • Night owls and early risers: When a night owl gets in bed with an early riser, their sleeping habits can cause a disruption in the other person’s life – with the night owl hopping into bed and disturbing the early riser’s sleep every night, while the early riser’s alarm clock jolts the night owl awake each morning.


  • Snoring: This is one of the most common complaints that couples have, especially light sleepers. It may not be the snoring partner’s fault that they snore, but over time, the lack of rest can lead to the non-snorer developing feelings of resentment for their partner because of the nightly predicament they feel trapped in.

  • Evening habits: Our pre-sleep routine can be an incredibly comforting time, as it allows us to unwind after a long day at work or with the kids. However, what happens when your evening “music enjoyment time” clashes with your partner’s “Korean drama time”? Possibly ugly clashes that would make even the fiercest Korean ajummas flee!

  • Tossing and turning: Another frequent complaint is that one partner (or sometimes, both) tosses and turns throughout the night. If you’re a light sleeper who can feel your mattress sink under you every time your partner turns, you know how waking up every one to two hours feels – and how this can take a massive toll on your energy reserves and health.

  • Different mattress thickness preferences: Do you enjoy sleeping on a plush, super soft and comfy mattress, while your partner prefers something that’s firm and supportive? Mattress selection is a very personal choice, and depending on your body’s needs (i.e. you may need a firm mattress to support your back, or a softer one that contours to your body better), sleeping on the “wrong” mattress could mean the difference between waking up fresh and energised every day, or feeling tired and full of aches and pains.

Sleeping apart can be good for your mental and physical well-being

Research shows that failing to get a consistent and uninterrupted seven to eight hours of rest each night, can have adverse consequences in the long run.

In addition to lowering your immune system and making you more susceptible to falling ill, sleep-deprived individuals also tend to gain weight more easily and feel tired throughout the day – which can seriously affect your performance at work, your ability to spend quality time with your kids, and much more.

A good night’s rest, begins with a good mattress (or two)

While a good mattress may not transform your partner’s sleeping routine, we’re confident that Sofzsleep latex mattresses can eliminate some of these issues – like couples being unable to share a bed due to differing preferences in mattress firmness. Thanks to Sofzsleep’s innovative his/her mattresses that come with two firmness levels, both you and your partner can enjoy sleeping on a mattress that’s perfectly suited to your preferences – while also enjoying each other’s company.

And because our high-quality latex mattresses hold their shape well, you’ll also feel almost no movement from your partner’s side, even if they’re tossing and turning all night.

Or, if you decide that sleeping in separate bedrooms is the best way to enjoy life together – while appreciating all your unique evening routines and sleeping habits – then we’d recommending choosing two Sofzsleep mattresses, so both of you can have amazing, restful slumbers every night.

Sofzsleep latex mattresses are non-toxic and allergen-free, durable and provide excellent support – yet are incredibly plush and comfortable. This means more restful nights for your child, and more energy to take on school and other activities the next day!

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